Author: Kathy Marshack

This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Stop Being Reasonable – Instead Look Out for Number One

Thursday, October 3rd at 2:00 pm – 3:00 pm Pacific

As backward as it may seem, the way to success with your “Aspie” is to look out for yourself first. I know, I know, it feels awkward to NTs because we want a win-win solution. Let me explain briefly and then we will discuss more on the call.

First, get clear about what you want, and be fearless in your presentation.

Second, your “Aspie” wants clarity. If you are clear about what you want — and you stop explaining why, your “Aspie” knows what you expect.

Third, even if your “Aspie” disagrees with you, they are inclined to do as you want, because you are being clear you will not be deterred.

It’s using their black and white logic to your advantage. You will have to get over wanting a more genteel negotiation. But with this method, you won’t be living a life where you are needs are never met.

All event times are posted in Pacific time.

A low cost International Support Group facilitated by Dr. Marshack. This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Preferred Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: What to Do When Your “Aspie” Becomes a Narcissist

Tuesday, October 1st at 10:00 am – 11:00 am Pacific

Narcissism is part and parcel to “Asperger Syndrome.” This is the primary reason living with “Aspies” is so maddening. Because of their mind-blindness, and self-absorption, we feel ignored, isolated and unloved.

But to some extent we can tolerate the ASD empathy dysfunction (low level narcissism), as long as they make a valiant effort to politely connect. It’s not empathy, but we can tell it comes from a heart that is true.

On the other hand, too often our “Aspie” loved ones descend into a more malignant narcissism. Without a diagnosis early in life, and with decades of adapting to their own and only belief systems, they may have developed ruthless methods to accomplish life goals.

This is an important conference for those who have been on this journey awhile. If you have been aware for awhile of your “Aspie’s” narcissism and really want to take control of this destructive dynamic, the time is now.

All event times are posted in Pacific time.

A free International Support Group facilitated by Dr. Marshack. This Teleconference is only for members of Meetup. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: TELECONFERENCE: Does Venting Really Help? YES!

Friday, September 27, 2019 1:00 PM to 1:50 PM

The latest research tells us that venting doesn’t really help. In fact, it actually makes us more fatigued and angry. We don’t get closer to resolution. We might even push people further away because anger is so unappealing.

But wait! There is a place for venting. Right here, among people who understand fully what you deal with. When you vent in a vacuum, you just get sicker. But when you vent with those who get it, you actually calm right down, don’t you?

It’s a relief to be heard. Yes we may start with a rant, but it seldom ends that way when someone listens and cares and knows that you are speaking the truth.

I have heard many times that this group has saved someone’s life. I believe it because where else can you rant and vent and still know that everyone here will support you through thick and thin?

Hopefully we can get beyond the venting on this call, but there might need to be room for a little ranting. After all we live in the chaotic world of ASD/NT relationships.

Please come to the call with a private place to listen and chat. This call is only for members. Thank you.

This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: How to Be Authentic in the Eyes of an “Aspie”

Thursday, September 26, 2019 4:00 PM to 5:00 PM

Do you have a feeling that your sense of self is not as strong as it used to be? Do you often feel almost invisible to your “Aspie” love ones? Are you becoming more and more isolated from friends, family, coworkers and neighbors?

This experience is quite common for most of our members actually. Whether you have been in an ASD/NT relationship for a short time or a long time, your “Aspie’s” lack of empathy creates an emptiness within yourself.

Why? Because we are social animals and require (yes require) daily acknowledgment of who we are. We don’t require agreement with everything that is the real ME, but we sure do need affirmation that our identity is really . . .and counts for something. We need to be seen and heard, don’t we?

Being the authentic YOU in the face of your “Aspie’s” lack of affirmation is tough. But in an odd way, it is precisely this lack of affirmation for your authentic self that can help you become more of the REAL YOU.

Even if your “Aspie’s” eyes don’t truly see you, use your strength of conviction and a firm commitment, take back your life, and be the Authentic YOU. That’s the goal of this video conference . . . to advance the process of being authentic.

All event times are posted in Pacific time.

This Teleconference is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: TELECONFERENCE: Why Am I Surrounded by “Aspies”?

Tuesday, September 24, 2019 2:30 PM to 4:00 PM

Has this awareness dawned on you yet? If you hang around this membership group long enough, you will soon start to ask yourself this question. As you explore your relationship with your ASD loved one (s), there emerges a niggling feeling that you are very familiar with the dynamic of ASD/NT relating.

In fact, it’s part of your healing process, as you take back your life and stop waiting for your “Aspie” to . . . be anything other than who they are. Slowly, slowly, it occurs to you that there have been others and still are others in your life. Parents, children, neighbors, coworkers and friends who are on the Spectrum.

It’s not that you see Spectrum behavior in everyone now. Nope. First, as a kind, considerate and open minded person, you are very accepting of the “Asperger” style. but there may be more to it than this.

It may be that you realize you have been forever altered by the “Aspies” in your life. . .and that you are inexplicably drawn to them. After all we are comforted by what (and who we know), even if these relationships can be painful, infuriating and demoralizing.

At this Teleconference we will discuss this phenomenon, that many of us know all too well. But we will also discuss how to free up your ability to make conscious choices, rather than to quietly follow choices laid out in the past.

Please come to the call with a private place to listen and chat.

This call is only for members of ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Please register at https://asd-ntrelationships.com/coming-events/