If you are a member of our private membership community, ”ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum”, you have probably noticed that I’m about to start a series of video conferences titled “Is intimacy a thing of the past?”
Love and marriage make for very complex relationships. They are not static but are ever-changing as each person matures and grows. A strong marriage requires constant and loving attention, which is challenging when one of the partners has an empathy disorder and the other partner feels like their love is one-sided.
How do you know you are in a one-sided relationship? I wrote an article with 10 questions to ask yourself and find out if you are the one who offers more in your couple’s relationship. Feeling like your relationship is one-sided doesn’t necessarily mean your partner doesn’t care about you, in his or her way. Lack of empathy is the reason for this one-sidedness. Of course, knowing this is not comforting, but it’s a start to understand what is happening.
Sex, socializing, and parenting in “AS”/NT Marriages are tough and complex subjects. Because of the lack of empathy in your “Aspie” partner, you will often feel misunderstood and unloved, and this may cause you to think that your marriage cannot survive, let alone thrive. This blog post dedicated to this topic might be helpful to you. There are ways that you can learn to cope and thrive as an individual and in your marriage. Whenever you choose counselling or joining a support group, you should know that you are not alone.
If you’d like to join our small group of people talking about intimacy and relationships, please register to attend one of my video conferences. I will give the same talk on 3 different occasions, so if you can’t attend on one day, maybe one of the other 2 dates will be better. All times are in the Pacific Time zone. The dates are:
Thursday, December 5th, 2019 at 4:00 pm
Tuesday, December 10th, 2019 at 10:00 am
Tuesday, December 17th, 2019 at 2:00 pm
We are also talking about intimacy in our forums, on our private membership website. If you’d like to talk about this subject with other members, check this forum (only for members – be sure to be logged in or you won’t be able to see our forums).
If you are not part of our private community, but you’d like to be, please take a look at our membership levels and see which one would be the best fit for you. You are not alone and you don’t have to face all the hardships alone. By being a member of our community, you will have access to video conferences, free teleconferences, forums and a supportive community who has been in your shoes. I hope to see you soon.
One Reply to “Is Intimacy a Thing of the Past?”
We are in coples therapy,with a psycologist who gave my aspue an assignment to identify what he is feeling ,identify the siurce and then express and communicate that to me.I had to ask him how he was feeling watching “The Good Dr..show that airs monday nights at 9 ,we tape it, Shawn the young surgeon who has Aspergers has great difficulty with cmmunicatio ,and of course intimacy,he keeps trying lying on the bed with his girlfriend who loves him ,and is very patient,he kerps leaving the room fully clithed,it is painful for me to watch it,because I can so well relate.We are in our late 60’s ,70’s,and have been together 10 years .I had to adk him how he felt about that scene with Shawn in the bedroom with his girlfr iui end and Shawn having to leave for the 4th time.He started to tell me about the plot i had to keep directing him to hus feelings.He said that dude is messed up .I expressed that I felt pain fir the gitlfriend and Shawn.