A recent CNN article, Match.com, Mensa create dating site for geniuses pointed out another obstacle to the search for a Soul Mate. It seems that those with High IQs, such as Mensa members, tend to hold their standards too high to find the right partner. Member of this elite society now have a way of meeting other Mensa members through Mensa Match.
Is it important to look for a partner who is like yourself? They say that opposites attract. Why is that? Especially when we’re young and unsure of ourselves we’re drawn to another person who has the skills we lack. It’s as if we love that person, they will somehow fill in the missing gaps in our personalities or our maturity. The problem is we can’t grow by osmosis. So relationships between opposites generally fizzle out or at the worst turn into a relationship fraught with boredom or hostility.
A lasting union is more likely with someone similar to yourself. If you are single and searching for your Soul Mate, it is useful to seek the help of a psychologist who can see your blind spots and help you clean up irrational fears and beliefs as you hone your skills at discovering what will really make you happy. If you’re in the Portland, OR/Vancouver, WA area, please contact my office and set up an appointment today.