1. Always checkout your feelings before making any decision.
2. Inquire after another’s feelings before proceeding to decision making.
3. Check your feelings again after arriving at the decision.
4. Remember that “feeling good” about something doesn’t always mean that the decision is correct.
5. Be willing to acknowledge that you’re afraid or angry or confused.
Hiding these feelings from yourself may deny you powerful and necessary information. These feelings are telling you whether or not you’re in alignment with your greatest purpose in life.
In practical terms, if you can agree with all of the following statements, your Emotional IQ is quite high.
1. I don’t become defensive when criticized.
2. I stay calm under pressure.
3. I handle setbacks effectively.
4. I manage anxiety, stress, anger and fear in pursuit of a goal.
5. I use criticism and other feedback for growth.
6. I’m a positive person.
7. I can maintain a sense of humor.
8. I see things from another’s perspective.
9. I recognize how my behavior affects others.
10. I air grievances skillfully.
11. I listen without jumping to judgment.
12. I freely admit mistakes.
How did you do? See anything you’d like to improve? Sometime long-held patterns of behavior are difficult to break. Many people have found that consulting with a psychologist give them the support they need to break through any lingering resistance. If this describes your situation, and you live near Portland, OR, please contact my office and schedule an appointment.