Breaking up is hard to do for any married couple. When Asperger’s Syndrome is thrown into the mix, the question of staying or leaving becomes especially poignant.
I don’t know how many times I have heard neurotypical partners of a NT/AS marriage say, “I’m staying . . . for now.” The sadness and heartbreak is intense in these words. Yet there’s hope that the relationship will turn around. Or perhaps the speaker is aware that they have no other options. Another possibility is that commitments to children outweigh leaving a disastrous marriage. However, “staying for now” is a strange place to be, isn’t it? Not quite a commitment. Not quite an answer to the painful dilemma of these relationships.
Let’s meet in our “Asperger Syndrome: Partners & Family of Adults with ASD” group on MeetUp to share ways we “stay for now.” While some have progressed beyond this place and others are just waking up to what living with an Aspie is all about, there is a huge group in the middle. How do you do it? How do others do it? Let’s share our collective wisdom.
You haven’t done so already, be sure to read a free chapter of “Out of Mind – Out of Sight: Parenting with a Partner with Asperger Syndrome (ASD)”. This book discusses the science behind Aspie behavior and how you can initiate the rules of engagement that help your Aspie give you the emotional support that you need.