A low cost International Support Group facilitated by Dr. Marshack. This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.
Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Why Do “Aspies” Always Say No?
Thursday, August 8, 2019 2:00 PM to 3:00 PM PDT
Why Do “Aspies” Always Say No? This question is a perennial one for this group. It’s not so much “Why” but how to get around the negative response?
Our “Aspies” say “NO!” out of habit. Since they struggle to follow your line of reasoning they say “NO!” to cut to the bottom line. They say “NO!” to buy themselves some time, to figure out what you are asking or telling them. They say”NO!” because it is comforting to be in charge when so much of their interpersonal life they do not feel in charge. And I am sure our members can explain many other reasons their “Aspies” say “NO!”
The real question is how to get around their reflexive action to put us off, and shut us down? Boy do we have to be patient to do that! Remember, if you are persistent and patient and unwilling to give up, your “Aspie” may come to trust you enough to agree to something, even if they have no idea what you are talking about. Of course, then we have to find a way to cope with the eye rolling and the criticism that “You always get your way.”
In this video conference, we take another look at this primitive mechanism of saying “NO!” In addition to methods for getting around their penchant for saying “NO!” let’s also discuss how to keep our sanity, when all we are trying to do is create a win-win for our relationships.
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