VIDEO CONFERENCE: Are You Going Through an Identity Crisis?

 

A low cost International Support Group facilitated by Dr. Marshack. This video conference is only for Members of the Meetup group, Asperger Syndrome: Partners & Family of Adults with ASD.
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Topic: Are you going through an Identity Crisis?

Thursday April 25, 2019, 2:00-3:00 PM PDT

VIDEO CONFERENCE: Are you going through an Identity Crisis? Have you noticed that there was a moment of relief and even a bit of excitement when you first discovered that your spouse has ASD. You thought to yourself, “Now there is a direction we can go in.” There seemed to be a little light at the end of the interminable tunnel you were trapped in. You threw yourself into researching the subject, locating a therapist, suggesting options for your spouse . . .which inexplicably ground to a halt. It’s not that your efforts were a waste of time. It’s that something else was coming to the surface that needed attending to. That something else is You! Haven’t you started questioning who you are. . . or were? Don’t you wonder where your life would be without the trauma of ASD/NT life? Can you even recognize the person you have become? This is the essence of an Identity Crisis. Don’t fear the crisis. This is an opportunity to take your life back, to re-establish your true identity, and to build a new and stronger version of yourself. Let’s meet with others on this journey of reclaiming our lives from the ravages of ASD/NT confusion.

VIDEO CONFERENCE: Don’t Let Gaslighting Trap You

This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Don’t Let Gaslighting Trap You

Tuesday, October 29th at 2:00 pm – 3:00 pm Pacific

Why is it that the NT automatically reacts to “Aspie” gaslighting? Why don’t we just turn and walk away? But we don’t. Instead we engage and then the argument turns angry, outrageous and even vicious.

Gaslighting is the phenomenon where your mind is attacked by your partner. They try to convince you that you didn’t say what you said; or that your observations are way out of line; or that everyone else thinks you’re nuts; or . . . Like brainwashing, Gaslighting turns the victim into a helpless dish of mush, if you don’t escape.

There are lots of reasons we allow gaslighting in our ASD/NT relationships. First, we love our “Aspie” so we give them the benefit of the doubt. Second, we hang out way too long in the territory of suspending our disbelief (more about this at the conference). Third, it’s in our nature to clear up misunderstandings and work toward a win-win solution.

None of the above works though — because you need a partner with empathy, not one with EmD-0, and/or heading toward a melt-down.

As I often say, it’s time to take back your life and one of the first steps to doing so, is to stop engaging when your spouse starts to gaslight you. In this conference, we’ll discuss methods to stay strong.

All event times are posted in Pacific time.

VIDEO CONFERENCE: Don’t Let Gaslighting Trap You

This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Don’t Let Gaslighting Trap You

Thursday, October 24th at 7:30 pm – 8:30 pm Pacific

Why is it that the NT automatically reacts to “Aspie” gaslighting? Why don’t we just turn and walk away? But we don’t. Instead we engage and then the argument turns angry, outrageous and even vicious.

Gaslighting is the phenomenon where your mind is attacked by your partner. They try to convince you that you didn’t say what you said; or that your observations are way out of line; or that everyone else thinks you’re nuts; or . . . Like brainwashing, Gaslighting turns the victim into a helpless dish of mush, if you don’t escape.

There are lots of reasons we allow gaslighting in our ASD/NT relationships. First, we love our “Aspie” so we give them the benefit of the doubt. Second, we hang out way too long in the territory of suspending our disbelief (more about this at the conference). Third, it’s in our nature to clear up misunderstandings and work toward a win-win solution.

None of the above works though — because you need a partner with empathy, not one with EmD-0, and/or heading toward a melt-down.

As I often say, it’s time to take back your life and one of the first steps to doing so, is to stop engaging when your spouse starts to gaslight you. In this conference, we’ll discuss methods to stay strong.

All event times are posted in Pacific time.

VIDEO CONFERENCE: Don’t Let Gaslighting Trap You

This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Don’t Let Gaslighting Trap You

Tuesday, October 22nd at 11:00 am – 12:00 pm Pacific

Why is it that the NT automatically reacts to “Aspie” gaslighting? Why don’t we just turn and walk away? But we don’t. Instead we engage and then the argument turns angry, outrageous and even vicious.

Gaslighting is the phenomenon where your mind is attacked by your partner. They try to convince you that you didn’t say what you said; or that your observations are way out of line; or that everyone else thinks you’re nuts; or . . . Like brainwashing, Gaslighting turns the victim into a helpless dish of mush, if you don’t escape.

There are lots of reasons we allow gaslighting in our ASD/NT relationships. First, we love our “Aspie” so we give them the benefit of the doubt. Second, we hang out way too long in the territory of suspending our disbelief (more about this at the conference). Third, it’s in our nature to clear up misunderstandings and work toward a win-win solution.

None of the above works though — because you need a partner with empathy, not one with EmD-0, and/or heading toward a melt-down.

As I often say, it’s time to take back your life and one of the first steps to doing so, is to stop engaging when your spouse starts to gaslight you. In this conference, we’ll discuss methods to stay strong.

All event times are posted in Pacific time.

MEETUP TELECONFERENCE: How to Be Alone and Not Lonely

A free International Support Group facilitated by Dr. Marshack. This Teleconference is only for members of Meetup. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: TELECONFERENCE: How to Be Alone and Not Lonely

Friday, October 18th at 1:00 pm – 2:00 pm Pacific

This is such a tough one. Not a day goes by that I don’t feel lonely. I miss the life I thought I would have with my “Aspie” love ones. I really had no idea what I was getting into and neither did you.

But what if the loneliness is motivation to take back your life and build a circle of loving family, along with a creative life path? That’s how it has worked for me and many others, who decided to stop living the illusion that our “Aspie” loved ones are anything other than “Aspie.”

 My lonely spells don’t last as long because I call friends, or I try something new, or I draft an idea for a new book, or I take out my kayak, or I invite family over for games and movies and a barbecue.

We NTs are resourceful and resilient. Never let the lonely moments deter you from living fully the beautiful life you are meant to live.

Please come to the call with a private place to listen and chat. This call is only for members. Thank you.

VIDEO CONFERENCE: Stop Being Reasonable – Instead Look Out for Number One

This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Stop Being Reasonable – Instead Look Out for Number One

Wednesday, October 16th at 1:00 pm – 2:00 pm Pacific

As backward as it may seem, the way to success with your “Aspie” is to look out for yourself first. I know, I know, it feels awkward to NTs because we want a win-win solution. Let me explain briefly and then we will discuss more on the call.

First, get clear about what you want, and be fearless in your presentation.

Second, your “Aspie” wants clarity. If you are clear about what you want — and you stop explaining why, your “Aspie” knows what you expect.

Third, even if your “Aspie” disagrees with you, they are inclined to do as you want, because you are being clear you will not be deterred.

It’s using their black and white logic to your advantage. You will have to get over wanting a more genteel negotiation. But with this method, you won’t be living a life where you are needs are never met.

All event times are posted in Pacific time.

TELECONFERENCE: Three Types of “Aspie”

This Teleconference is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: TELECONFERENCE: Three Types of “Aspie”

Thursday, October 10th at 1:30 pm – 3:00 pm Pacific

Often members say that “my ‘Aspie’ is different than others in the group.” They base their comment on observations that their “Aspie” doesn’t have certain classic ASD traits, such as meltdowns, or rages, or sensory sensitivities, or poor social skills, etc.

They may describe their “Aspie” as (1) withdrawn, or (2) charming or (3) intimidating. And they always say he or she is “highly intelligent.”

What’s missing from these observations though is that regardless of what ASD or personality traits your “Aspie” presents, the underlying Empathy Dysfunction (EmD-0) is the common denominator for all “Aspies.” Further, broadening your understanding about EmD helps you to see how similar are the various types, and how to improve communication.

Please come to the call with a private place to listen and chat.

This call is only for members of ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Please register at https://asd-ntrelationships.com/coming-events/