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Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Breaking the Narcissism trap
Thursday, November 21, 2019 at 4:00 pm
Many of you have heard of “Mind Blindness,” with regard to our “Aspies”, but it still may be a confusing concept, particularly when it comes to the inevitable outcome of self-absorption and narcissism. Once you are sucked into the world of narcissistic thinking, there is no way out. So this video conference is all about how to stay out of the narcissist’s logic, and think for yourself.
A simple trick I learned long ago, when I found myself being ensnared by “Aspie” logic, was to simply say “No, thank you.” Or I might say, “Well, that doesn’t work for me” and walk away. First, you need to recognize the narcissism. Then you need to cut it off immediately because you can’t win. Doesn’t it make sense that you can’t win when arguing with an irrational person, who does not have an idea of what’s in your best interests?
Plus with an “Aspie” they actually seem to appreciate it when you say, “No, thank you.” They understand where you stand, even if they can’t fathom your inner experience. With a true narcissist, this approach infuriates them because it’s all about winning. Yes, your “Aspie” may have disintegrated into narcissism more than you would like, but you might be able to rescue the relationship with this approach.
Make sure you have a private place to talk, without interruption. I will send you reminders of this Zoom conference, but if you don’t have your email set to receive the reminders, you may not notice. I would hate to have you miss the call, so make sure you’re able to get my messages.