Marriage Counselor’s Tips on How to Prepare for Remarriage

Even after a difficult divorce, many divorcees eventually remarry. A second marriage can be a success. In order for that to be the case, it is important to recognize that it will be a challenge and you must be willing to put in the work to make it work!

Here are a few things to keep in mind when considering remarriage:

• Prospective remarriage partners should build a relationship slowly, getting to know each other together and as individuals. Listen to family and friends who know who you are. They knew you when you were married before so their impressions are important. 

• Remember to use your second marriage to become a better partner yourself. Usually the opportunity for conflict and disappointment is increased in second marriages because the challenges are greater. So you need to learn to love the complexity. 

• You or your partner might still be grieving over the loss of your prior relationship. Vent your grief as a way to defuse anger. Take a joint exploration of your previous relationships and understand your history. If necessary consider seeking help from a marriage and family therapist.

For more information, visit Marriage Counseling – Maintaining a Strong Marriage. If children will be involved in the remarriage, read How Parents (and Stepparents) Can Help Their Children Adjust to Change.