Author: Kathy Marshack

This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Breaking the Narcissism trap

Monday, November 25, 2019 at 11:00 am

Many of you have heard of “Mind Blindness,” with regard to our “Aspies”, but it still may be a confusing concept, particularly when it comes to the inevitable outcome of self-absorption and narcissism. Once you are sucked into the world of narcissistic thinking, there is no way out. So this video conference is all about how to stay out of the narcissist’s logic, and think for yourself.

A simple trick I learned long ago, when I found myself being ensnared by “Aspie” logic, was to simply say “No, thank you.” Or I might say, “Well, that doesn’t work for me” and walk away. First, you need to recognize the narcissism. Then you need to cut it off immediately because you can’t win. Doesn’t it make sense that you can’t win when arguing with an irrational person, who does not have an idea of what’s in your best interests?

Plus with an “Aspie” they actually seem to appreciate it when you say, “No, thank you.” They understand where you stand, even if they can’t fathom your inner experience. With a true narcissist, this approach infuriates them because it’s all about winning. Yes, your “Aspie” may have disintegrated into narcissism more than you would like, but you might be able to rescue the relationship with this approach.

Make sure you have a private place to talk, without interruption.  I will send you reminders of this Zoom conference, but if you don’t have your email set to receive the reminders, you may not notice. I would hate to have you miss the call, so make sure you’re able to get my messages.

A free International Support Group facilitated by Dr. Marshack. This Teleconference is only for members of Meetup. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: TELECONFERENCE: Holiday stress management

Friday, November 22, 2019 at 1:00 pm

Every year I gear up for the inevitable holiday madness, but it’s far more than other families face isn’t it? Our families are fraught with sensory overload, upsetting schedule changes, well intentioned relatives who don’t get it, etc. At this teleconference come prepared with tips for others. If you have found ways to get through the madness, we’d love to hear it.

For example, for many years I packed up the motorhome, and took the family camping for Thanksgiving. We would stay at a campground that hosted a potluck for campers. They provided the Turkey and stuffing. The campers provided the sides. On Black Friday, we avoided all of the shoppers in town, and enjoyed shopping in the little coastal town nearby. It was festive and low wear and tear on me.

Use this teleconference to help ease you into the holiday season, knowing that you have a whole lot of NTs who know exactly what you are facing. Come prepared for the call with a private place to listen and join in if you can. I will send you reminders, but make sure you have your email set to receive them.

This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Breaking the Narcissism trap

Thursday, November 21, 2019 at 4:00 pm

Many of you have heard of “Mind Blindness,” with regard to our “Aspies”, but it still may be a confusing concept, particularly when it comes to the inevitable outcome of self-absorption and narcissism. Once you are sucked into the world of narcissistic thinking, there is no way out. So this video conference is all about how to stay out of the narcissist’s logic, and think for yourself.

A simple trick I learned long ago, when I found myself being ensnared by “Aspie” logic, was to simply say “No, thank you.” Or I might say, “Well, that doesn’t work for me” and walk away. First, you need to recognize the narcissism. Then you need to cut it off immediately because you can’t win. Doesn’t it make sense that you can’t win when arguing with an irrational person, who does not have an idea of what’s in your best interests?

Plus with an “Aspie” they actually seem to appreciate it when you say, “No, thank you.” They understand where you stand, even if they can’t fathom your inner experience. With a true narcissist, this approach infuriates them because it’s all about winning. Yes, your “Aspie” may have disintegrated into narcissism more than you would like, but you might be able to rescue the relationship with this approach.

Make sure you have a private place to talk, without interruption.  I will send you reminders of this Zoom conference, but if you don’t have your email set to receive the reminders, you may not notice. I would hate to have you miss the call, so make sure you’re able to get my messages.

This Video Conference is limited to twelve people, and is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: VIDEO CONFERENCE: Breaking the Narcissism trap

Tuesday, November 19, 2019 at 2:00 pm

Many of you have heard of “Mind Blindness,” with regard to our “Aspies”, but it still may be a confusing concept, particularly when it comes to the inevitable outcome of self-absorption and narcissism. Once you are sucked into the world of narcissistic thinking, there is no way out. So this video conference is all about how to stay out of the narcissist’s logic, and think for yourself.

A simple trick I learned long ago, when I found myself being ensnared by “Aspie” logic, was to simply say “No, thank you.” Or I might say, “Well, that doesn’t work for me” and walk away. First, you need to recognize the narcissism. Then you need to cut it off immediately because you can’t win. Doesn’t it make sense that you can’t win when arguing with an irrational person, who does not have an idea of what’s in your best interests?

Plus with an “Aspie” they actually seem to appreciate it when you say, “No, thank you.” They understand where you stand, even if they can’t fathom your inner experience. With a true narcissist, this approach infuriates them because it’s all about winning. Yes, your “Aspie” may have disintegrated into narcissism more than you would like, but you might be able to rescue the relationship with this approach.

Make sure you have a private place to talk, without interruption.  I will send you reminders of this Zoom conference, but if you don’t have your email set to receive the reminders, you may not notice. I would hate to have you miss the call, so make sure you’re able to get my messages.

This Teleconference is only for Members of the private membership group, ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum. Click here for membership details and to register for this call.

Topic: TELECONFERENCE: Get the guilt out of the way

Thursday, November 14, 2019 at 2:30 pm

Why do we feel so darned guilty in these relationships with ASD loved ones? It’s pretty simple really. NTs accept responsibility for doing what we can to improve the relationship — while our “Aspie” loved one does not. Over and over again, when we hit a wall with our “Aspie” we search for another approach. And each time we fail, we feel badly.

Another reason for the guilt is that our “Aspies” are more than willing to hold us accountable for the problems. After all, they are doing their best and if it doesn’t work, it must be us — or so their reasoning goes.

At this teleconference we are going to lay open this false belief system, both the NT notion that we are guilty for failing to reach our ASD loved ones, and the notion that there is no fault if you intended no fault (an ASD kind of logic).

This teleconference is reserved for members of “ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS: Life with an Adult on the Autism Spectrum.” Please come prepared to protect your privacy and those on the call. I will send you reminders by email, so it is important to set your email to accept my emails. Otherwise you will miss this important call. Thank you.