A Delivery of Understanding

A new FedEx driver recently delivered a package to my house. As I sat in my dining room where I can see the Pacific Ocean while meeting with my online video clients, I noticed him approaching. Living in a rural area, I rely on various delivery services: UPS, USPS, FedEx, Amazon. I do love the convenience of delivery, and I don’t even mind the accumulation of boxes since I have recycling centers just ten miles away in either direction.

Heading one way, I can drop off my recyclables before stopping at Pelican Brewpub for a light bite or swinging by Chester’s Thriftway for fresh seafood. The other direction offers cute beach shops and a stop for supplies for my animals, Kokomo and Seven of Nine. Either way, the ocean always beckons Kokomo and me—whether at Winema Beach, Neskowin Beach, or Roads End.

When I saw the new FedEx driver approach, I stepped outside to greet him and show him how to open my elaborate retractable gate — designed to keep Kokomo safely inside. He was friendly and noticed my books sitting in the window. With curiosity, he asked, “Are you an author?”

I smiled. “Yes, I am. My specialty is NeuroDivergent Relationships.”

He simply nodded and said, “Have a nice day!” before continuing on his route.

A week later, he was back with another package, this time on a particularly icy day. As he approached, I asked, “How are you doing out there on the road? I hope you’re staying safe.”

He responded with a smile, “Oh, I’m doing OK. I spent eight hours listening to your recordings.”

I was surprised. Looking at his smiling face, I asked, “Oh, do you have family with Autism?”

He replied, “Yes—me. I’m autistic.” He smiled gently, as if seeking approval.

I met his gaze warmly and said, “What do you think? Are my podcasts helpful?”

His face brightened. “My wife is NeuroTypical, and I want to relate to her better. You are so helpful.”

I felt so seen by this young FedEx driver and I felt so hopeful for him when he said, “You are so helpful.” I told him to have a good day. And I said, “Let me know how it goes for you?”

In that brief conversation, I learned so much about him—his commitment to understanding his wife, his curiosity, and his openness. I suggested that he invite his wife to listen to my podcasts so they could talk about them together.

And that, my friends, is exactly why I do what I do.