How can you renew your commitment to each other through a renegotiated marriage contract?
- Schedule a weekend away so you can relax and discuss this.
- Each should privately identify what he or she now wants from the marriage – write it down on a piece of paper.
- Be flexible with yourself and your partner as circumstances change.
- Let go of old ways that are no longer appropriate.
- Keep your basic values in tact.
- Identify goals that are in the best interests of your marriage and individually.
- Discuss with your partner how to divide family responsibilities equitably.
- Overcome the inevitable fears.
I often hear people say, “I’m not going to change; you knew who I was when you married me; you better be happy with that!” Things do change and people move on. All of us change daily and it’s doubtful that you’re the same person you were twenty years ago. And neither is your spouse. Complaints about change are coming from a place of fear…fear of change and fear of the unknown. Change is inevitable. It will either overtake you or you can plan a little and guide the change process. It’s your choice.
Evaluate your situation now. Is it time to talk with your spouse and make some changes before they erupt into irreconcilable differences? Have you lost your sense of identity over time? Have conflicts already eruped? Many couples have found that they can more easily and calmly open this conversation when an impartial family counselor is involved. If you live near Portland, Oregon, please contact my office and set up an appointment. I would be delighted to help you reconnect with your lifelong partner and make the next stage of your life more fulfilling.
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